
“Yi Slacker and Steve,
I really hope you read my email because I really need the help. But it’s really sad so I’m not sure if you will.
My boyfriend that I love with all of my heart was recently diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It’s so awful and really hit all of us very hard. Especially since he’s only 24 and this shouldn’t be happening to him at all.
My problem other than the obvious is that I really think he’s going to propose. Which in any other circumstances would be amazing. My concerns are that it’s too much stress for him. I would rather him take it easy with me by his side instead of worrying about wedding issues. Also, and this is going to sound extremely selfish, but I’m 23 – and I don’t want to be a 24 or 25 year old widow.
So if he asks, which I really feel is coming – what do I say? Both of our hearts are already so broken from all of this, I just don’t want to do any more damage.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. I would really love to hear some advice.
Thank You,
Amber”
Slacker is speechless. He see’s Amber’s point and he doesn’t want to come off heartless, but if she marries him, she will be a widow.
Steve says if he was involved in someone’s dying wish, he would probably put his feelings aside and commit. At the same time, he says the right thing to do is to let her go… Set her free. If Steve had cancer, he would disappear and not let anyone get involved…
Slacker understands where Steve is coming from, but Steve could just be the exception. Maybe Amber’s boyfriend would love to have someone around. He may be scared…
What do you think? Should Amber marry him?
If he asks, what should Amber say?